*air suctioning sound*
That is the sound of my Wonderful Savior reaching in, grasping my forearm and thrusting me from the center of the vortex that has been this week. So much drama. So many superfluos people dragged into the debate. So many words written into the wee hours of the morning, and in the end, I only came out with a nauseous headache and a Sister's forgiveness for crimes she still won't name.
Huh?
*resigned sigh*
I am too old for this; and my Husband is too dignified for this. The irony is that I skipped my 20th high school reunion last weekend...or did I?
So, time to recognize the good that Jesus has done with it -- because He always does something good with the mess I give Him. Surely there are 13 things I've learned and want to pass on to my girls through what I'm affectionately deeming "Boot Camp: Christian Conflict."
(Yes, Christians have conflict and the World knows it. Let's not hide it like hypocrites, but rather show them how it's done differently in The Kingdom).
- Know, and don't forget the difference between Friends and playmates.
- Build a Friendship on Jesus Christ; talk often about Him and revel together in His love.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say, or don't say anything at all.
- Realize others may not live with #3 in mind, and may condemn you for it.
- Ask questions and wait for answers.
- Avoid accusations until you've accomplished #5.
- Believe the best about everybody for as long as you can, and then give 2nd chances.
- Think Biblically; react accordingly; pray fervently; start with yourself.
- Read your Bible. Often. Deeply. No cut-and-paste devotions.
- Define terms: sin, gossip, apology, confession, forgiveness and love.
- Use as few words as possible.
- When you're wrong, repent quickly and completely -- and keep it exclusive. Don't try to balance your responsibility with a little bit of forgiveness.
- Seek peace and employ mediation: husbands, elders, pastors, teachers. True counselors are objective to the situation and players, and will not be inclined to become involved for one side or another.
5 comments:
My girls are only 4 and almost 2, but I'm printing your lessons to share with them someday (or maybe by the time they are old enough to understand they will just see them lived as a part of my life). Succinct and wise words. Thank you for sharing. I'm stil praying with and for you.
Very wise words, GB. I'm still learning a few of these myself. Thanks for the list!
Wonderful! Great reminders...especially the say what you mean-mean what you say..ouch! In a good way :)
Great guidelines to live by.
We all have learned and will continue to learn so much from you. Thank you for your wise words. You have such a command of language-a gift from God that will impact many.
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