Wednesday, November 5, 2008

A horrible, wonderful, miserable, glorious, no good, very great day.

Have you ever had one of those days?

A day which, itself, was the last in a string of difficult days. Or weeks.

Nagging and difficulty, compounded daily. A day in which you have a hard time believing that your children wouldn't be better off without you. A day in which you can't stand the sound of your own flawed parent's inflection bubbling out of your own flawed spirit, and being belched out of your own vile mouth.

A day in which your sin is met and mirrored by your exasperated child. A day in which everyone in the room sits stunned and silent as this horrid dynamic plays out and wonders what will happen.

But you have somewhere to be. And now you are going to be late. And you know you can't turn back the clock and that there will be loss.

And you don't think you want to go. You really want to send everyone to their rooms for the day and be. all. alone.

But you load up the kids and get in the car anyway. And you begin your drive questioning the good of having much...much to take care, much of which to be a steward, much opportunity to appreciate, much of which to make expectation, much to fail in and much about which to feel guilty.

And then...

as you drive away and leave the loudness, abandon the monotonous, and forsake the oppression of habit and expectation, the landscape changes. The work of man's hands gives way to the word of His power. Instead of raunchy billboards and decrepit building facades, you see tree tops swaying in the breeze and open fields hosting carefree creatures. Your lungs exhale and you feel your blood flow more freely; your body calms and your spirit sings.

The change in you is perceptible to the astute teen in the front seat, and your calm serves to settle her in turn. You reach over and hold her hand, squeezing it three times: code for "I. love. you." And though she doesn't reciprocate the gesture, she holds your hand too while quiet tears well.

God is doing His restorative work. And you thank Him very much.

And you thank Him, too, for the ministry of the new friend who is opening her home and acreage to 30 suburbanite children and their grateful mothers. What fun they will have! There are new friends to make, dry creek beds to explore, and bumps and bruises to ignore for the sake of the newly discovered ball game.

God, of course, is not in everything, but all of His creation certainly does testify to His greatness and is, somehow, a salve to your weary soul on such a horrible, wonderful, miserable, glorious, no good, very great day as was this day.

19 comments:

Elspeth said...

God, of course, is not in everything, but He is Masterful at using everything that we humbly give Him, even after we've made a mess of it.

I think every parent can relate to your words. Stay encouraged.

Hope your girls had a wonderful time.

Anonymous said...

please don't ever quit blogging :-)

(we were down that way end of September and the landscape is beautiful! always makes us want to move there.)

valb said...

In His time. . .

Joyful Days said...

I was with you up until "And then..."

Definitely going to work on having more of those "And then..." moments. Having too many of the "A day in which your sin is met and mirrored by your exasperated child." moments.

Blessings,

Julie

Brenda said...

Lesson learned....next time I have a day such as this we will get in the car and start driving...and keep driving until we hit "country."

Thank goodness gas prices have gone down! :)

Dana~Are We There Yet? said...

I can relate to every word. The things I'm struggling so mightily with in my oldest (17) are the very things I loathe in myself, which leads to much frustration and heartache on both sides. I am grateful to God for the redemptive work He is pleased to do in both of us.

Dawn said...

The beauty of God's creation is a wonderful thing.

Barb said...

Yes ma'am. I've had those days. We all have. They start badly, get worse, start getting better and end perfectly.

Yes. I've had those days.

Madeleine said...

And it becomes a work of God when we look back, reflect and learn, and see HIS hand inspite of ourselves!!

Great post.

Again. :)

missy said...

You don't know how much it means to me that you have days like that, too. Sometimes I think it really is just me...

edie said...

You have a gift with words. Thank you for this today!

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Mc Allen said...

I have 4 girls, 3 are teens, I feel this way daily!! Your testamony is very powerful and such an unmistakable sign of His reign- Thank you.... LA

The Butterfly Catcher said...

Been there. . .done that! I'm so glad that with Christ our messes of sin and selfishness can be transformed into messages of life and hope! He is so good! May His grace abound in your heart and in your home today!

In His Love,
Tammy

Anonymous said...

You have a talent with words!
Great writers like yourself is why I stick to pictures!
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Keri

Robin said...

Missing you. Loved this post. As already stated you do have a gift with words.

Martha said...

I loved your post. Thanks for sharing. I had the same type of day - only it was right before we were leaving for church. I also had to speak on raising children for the Lord when I got to church. Quiet humbling, may I say!!! I was glad I had a full 45 minute drive to church, in which I used the time to get right with God and the kids!! Praise the Lord for forgivness.

Blessings,
~Martie

Jennifer said...

Hi, thanks for stopping at my blog, I linked to your 13 reasons for homeschooling, because it said exactly what I would say, if I could write well! So thanks!!! My whole three readers (which are probably my mom and sisters!! he he he) should enjoy it!

Robin said...

"a horrible, wonderful, miserable, glorious, no good, very great day"
Boy can I relate to this.

Um, can I be rude and ask for a new post? Though your day ended on a positive good note, I'd like to see a line or two or a few pictures of goodness.

Seems like I remember that the holiday season sometimes gets to you; that's why for the need.